Why do we do it? Rise hours before dawn to stand in line and be some of the first customers to rush a store for "doorbuster" deals? I'll tell you why I do it.
My friend invited me a few years ago to Black Friday shop with her because her "regular" shopping friend couldn't go. I had never been before, and frankly, had never considered it. "Well, those people are just crazy. I do not need a sale that bad!" I used to declare. But, I really like this friend and wanted her to have the shopping experience she desired, so I drug myself out of bed, grabbed a cup of coffee, a short shopping list and embarked on what would prove to be the first of many fanatical Black Fridays.
I admit it, I am hooked. It was so much fun standing in line with my friend, sipping coffee, sharing our Thanksgiving memories from the day before, our hopes for our children and our children's children for the future (while we are shivering), and, I cannot deny, we entered each store to win the prize of the deal of the day.
We make a pretty good team. We usually separate at the door, grab our trophy deals, and meet at the register to check out (cell phones are a must!) She has, on several occasions, enabled me to be next in line for cameras that were limited to the first 10 customers, grabbed vacuums that were being considered by other people and I really needed that last one, and she simply helps me make those decisions that need a second opinion.
I believe Black Friday Shopping is first about being with my friend and second about shopping. Husband loves it because he gets to stay in bed, yet he benefits from me getting more for our money at Christmas.
Thank you friend for inviting me years ago to share your life with you.
Monday, November 26, 2007
Thursday, November 01, 2007
Why Do We Go To Church Sunday and Wednesday Nights? (and why do we feel guilty when we don't)
I must answer this simply from my personal desires and needs. When my family was looking for a church about a year ago one of our first desires was that our new church would have Sunday p.m. and Wed p.m. services. It was more difficult to find churches that had these services than those that had ceased their worship at these times. We desire these times with other believers because of our need to be taught, encouraged, and lifted up more than just once a week.
If my desire is to be less like this world and more like Christ, I must spend extra time with like minded Christians who remind me that this world is not my home and that I shouldn’t fit in with it. My human nature tells me constantly that I can have both, this world and Christ. But that is a lie. So, when I go to see my Christian family I hear and see Truth more clearly.
I love Sunday and Wednesday nights. That is when most of the people who are there are serious about their walk and those are the people I need. I hunger for learning from them and experiencing Christ with them. Worshipping with them moves me. Sunday mornings are great, too, but Sunday p.m. worship is more intimate and personal for me.
When I miss, I don’t feel guilty, and neither should you. I think when we feel guilty, it is because of what we believe others might think of us. I am not keeping score, are you?
If my desire is to be less like this world and more like Christ, I must spend extra time with like minded Christians who remind me that this world is not my home and that I shouldn’t fit in with it. My human nature tells me constantly that I can have both, this world and Christ. But that is a lie. So, when I go to see my Christian family I hear and see Truth more clearly.
I love Sunday and Wednesday nights. That is when most of the people who are there are serious about their walk and those are the people I need. I hunger for learning from them and experiencing Christ with them. Worshipping with them moves me. Sunday mornings are great, too, but Sunday p.m. worship is more intimate and personal for me.
When I miss, I don’t feel guilty, and neither should you. I think when we feel guilty, it is because of what we believe others might think of us. I am not keeping score, are you?
Thursday, October 25, 2007
Women's Ministries
I guess I feel I just need express my opinion about Women's Ministries (WM) and their role in the early 21st century church. I know it sounds academic, but, this is really merely my own personal ponderings. I may really be off the mark, so let me know if I need to change my view.
I have been intimately involved in WM for 23 years. I have started ministries, served as a team member, led them, and faithfully supported and attended organizations that others have built. I freely admit that when I first began the arduous task of building the first WM I would be involved with, I was young, at an adolescent church, and I had no experience in this area. Even with these obstacles, this group of women understood their need for community. Not just any community, but a sisterhood of like minded Christians who needed each other to encourage one another in our sojourn. We ministered together to others outside our church, met together to serve one another, and ultimately our church benefitted. Of course, this position was voluntary.
As the years have passed, our family has changed and so have the churches we have attended. I have served on a team or led the WM at every church we have belonged. The ministry that I remember with the most fondness was, suprisingly, not the largest church we joined (300). It did eventually grow to be rather large (1500 in attendance of each Sunday morning). I was paid staff at this church. I had a volunteer team of 8, and they had teams of their own that successfully engineered and executed their segment of the ministry with a creativity I could never have generated myself.
In my experience, and I will agree it is limited, most churches (of any denomination) do not have a WM staff position. The job of WM leader is expected to be filled by a volunteer. Most churches will express their desire to have a WM, but, realistically, if no one steps up to do the job, our churches will wait for someone to "feel" the need to organize activities for the women, especially since it is a volunteer position. Each volunteer tends to have their favorite activity to support, so as the leaders change, so does the personality of the ministry. Now, this is true of most positions, however, in ministry at a church whose foundation is the Bible, we really should have a cornerstone of Bible study for WM no matter who is in leadership.
So, now I must ask myself (and you) these questions:
*Why isn't WM a necessary component in our church?
*Is WM just a nice, additional activity for us to put in our bulletins on Sunday to show how much we have going on?
*If we are going to spend millions on our children and youth ministries (and I believe this is the right thing to do), will we be satisfied for these women to just drop their children off and leave our parking lot? (Our numbers say that this is happening)
*Why don't we find a professional WM leader and include that position on our church staff so we can have an effective ministry that affects over half our attendees, and, in turn, benefits our church as a whole? (On any given Sunday over half of the adults in attendance are women).
To conclude, I love my church. My desire is for us not to follow trends in the 21st century church, but to create them. Effective trends that will affect our world for Christ. That is why we are here.
I have been intimately involved in WM for 23 years. I have started ministries, served as a team member, led them, and faithfully supported and attended organizations that others have built. I freely admit that when I first began the arduous task of building the first WM I would be involved with, I was young, at an adolescent church, and I had no experience in this area. Even with these obstacles, this group of women understood their need for community. Not just any community, but a sisterhood of like minded Christians who needed each other to encourage one another in our sojourn. We ministered together to others outside our church, met together to serve one another, and ultimately our church benefitted. Of course, this position was voluntary.
As the years have passed, our family has changed and so have the churches we have attended. I have served on a team or led the WM at every church we have belonged. The ministry that I remember with the most fondness was, suprisingly, not the largest church we joined (300). It did eventually grow to be rather large (1500 in attendance of each Sunday morning). I was paid staff at this church. I had a volunteer team of 8, and they had teams of their own that successfully engineered and executed their segment of the ministry with a creativity I could never have generated myself.
In my experience, and I will agree it is limited, most churches (of any denomination) do not have a WM staff position. The job of WM leader is expected to be filled by a volunteer. Most churches will express their desire to have a WM, but, realistically, if no one steps up to do the job, our churches will wait for someone to "feel" the need to organize activities for the women, especially since it is a volunteer position. Each volunteer tends to have their favorite activity to support, so as the leaders change, so does the personality of the ministry. Now, this is true of most positions, however, in ministry at a church whose foundation is the Bible, we really should have a cornerstone of Bible study for WM no matter who is in leadership.
So, now I must ask myself (and you) these questions:
*Why isn't WM a necessary component in our church?
*Is WM just a nice, additional activity for us to put in our bulletins on Sunday to show how much we have going on?
*If we are going to spend millions on our children and youth ministries (and I believe this is the right thing to do), will we be satisfied for these women to just drop their children off and leave our parking lot? (Our numbers say that this is happening)
*Why don't we find a professional WM leader and include that position on our church staff so we can have an effective ministry that affects over half our attendees, and, in turn, benefits our church as a whole? (On any given Sunday over half of the adults in attendance are women).
To conclude, I love my church. My desire is for us not to follow trends in the 21st century church, but to create them. Effective trends that will affect our world for Christ. That is why we are here.
Wednesday, October 17, 2007
Fear God and keep His commandments
Closing Comments
Ecclesiastes – Week 6
I. Fear God
A. FEAR (Holman Bible Dictionary) A broad range of emotions that embrace both the secular and the religious worlds.
1. Secular fear is the natural feeling of alarm caused by the expectation of imminent danger, pain, or disaster.
2. Religious fear appears as the result of awe and reverence toward a supreme power.
B. FEAR 3372. yare', yaw-ray'– (Strong’s Hebrew Dictionary); a primary root; to fear; morally to revere; causative to frighten:--panic, be (make) afraid, dread(-ful), (put in) fear (-ful, -fully, -ing). (be had in) reverence (-end), X see, terrible (act, -ness, thing).
1. Obedience to even the hardest commands is our goal, because the consequence of disobedience (separation from God) is dreadful. Gen 22:12
2. We should not fear anything or anyone but God alone. This will protect us from sinning. Ex. 20:20
3. The fear of the LORD in our children begins with us. Josh 4: 22-24
C. FEAR - When I realize my own frailty, understand my lack of control in my circumstances and future, and get a glimpse of God’s glory, power and sovereignty, I am distressed and require God’s sheltering presence from myself and the effect of this sinful world.
II. Keep His Commandments
A. Jericho…
1. glimpsed Jehovah Sabaoth before Israel came to their city.
2. had already begun to respond to His might.
B. Israel
1. Fundamentals of fearing Jehovah Sabaoth
a. Circumcision – v2-7
b. Healing – v8
c. Reflect on God’s deliverance in the past – v10
d. Recognize that the battle was God’s – v13-14
e. Acknowledge the Holiness of God – v14-15
1. Experiencing Jehovah Sabaoth
a. God gave Israel exactly what He had promised
1. sustenance
2. The land
b. God did all the work. Israel was only required to keep His commandments.
III. For this is the whole duty of man.
BE THE WORD.
Ecclesiastes – Week 6
I. Fear God
A. FEAR (Holman Bible Dictionary) A broad range of emotions that embrace both the secular and the religious worlds.
1. Secular fear is the natural feeling of alarm caused by the expectation of imminent danger, pain, or disaster.
2. Religious fear appears as the result of awe and reverence toward a supreme power.
B. FEAR 3372. yare', yaw-ray'– (Strong’s Hebrew Dictionary); a primary root; to fear; morally to revere; causative to frighten:--panic, be (make) afraid, dread(-ful), (put in) fear (-ful, -fully, -ing). (be had in) reverence (-end), X see, terrible (act, -ness, thing).
1. Obedience to even the hardest commands is our goal, because the consequence of disobedience (separation from God) is dreadful. Gen 22:12
2. We should not fear anything or anyone but God alone. This will protect us from sinning. Ex. 20:20
3. The fear of the LORD in our children begins with us. Josh 4: 22-24
C. FEAR - When I realize my own frailty, understand my lack of control in my circumstances and future, and get a glimpse of God’s glory, power and sovereignty, I am distressed and require God’s sheltering presence from myself and the effect of this sinful world.
II. Keep His Commandments
A. Jericho…
1. glimpsed Jehovah Sabaoth before Israel came to their city.
2. had already begun to respond to His might.
B. Israel
1. Fundamentals of fearing Jehovah Sabaoth
a. Circumcision – v2-7
b. Healing – v8
c. Reflect on God’s deliverance in the past – v10
d. Recognize that the battle was God’s – v13-14
e. Acknowledge the Holiness of God – v14-15
1. Experiencing Jehovah Sabaoth
a. God gave Israel exactly what He had promised
1. sustenance
2. The land
b. God did all the work. Israel was only required to keep His commandments.
III. For this is the whole duty of man.
BE THE WORD.
Wednesday, October 10, 2007
Ecclesiastes - Week 5
Closing Comments
I. Submission – Literally – Under (sub) – Cause or Purpose (mission)
mis·sion - noun
1. a sending out or being sent out with authority to perform a special service;
2. a group of persons sent to a foreign government to conduct negotiations; diplomatic delegation; embassy
3. the special task or purpose for which a person is apparently destined in life; calling
4. any charitable, educational, or religious organization for helping persons in need
5. a series of special religious services designed to increase faith or bring about conversion
6. * Mil. a specific combat operation assigned to an individual or unit;
II. Submission to God
A. Our cause is the law of God which brings life and peace. (Rom 8:6-7)
B. Ultimately, all will submit to God’s authority. (1 Cor 15:26 – 28) - The order of this world is hazy. But eventually God will make it all right. Every creation will be subject to Him, cede to Him now and enjoy the blessings of God’s order before the appointed time.
C. Submission is a hierarchy from God. ( Eph 5:17 – 24 ) God to Christ, to man, to woman, to child as the sequence. However, the tone of this hierarchy was not military, but voluntary and self-sacrificing. It is wise, understanding, and perceptive of God’s will. It is about pleasure and order, and out of our desire to please our Redeemer.
III. Submission to others
A. Our submission to man’s ordinances will silence fools and glorify God and give us liberty. (1 Pet 2:13 – 20) (Rom 13:1 – 7) Anyone God has put in authority over you is so that you will have someone to minister to you. Do you believe you are not in need of someone to serve and protect you? Give over that area of your life and allow God to lead as well as shelter you from this dangerous world.
B. Be humble towards all and ready to learn from anyone God chooses to use. (1 Pet 5:5 – 8) Yes, usually it is the younger who offer submission to the older, however, it is not always the case. Grace and humility go hand in hand. This will keep you from the wiles of The adversary.
C. Submission is a hierarchy from God. (Eph 5:17 – 24) God to Christ, to man, to woman, to child as the sequence. However, the tone of this hierarchy was not military, but voluntary and self-sacrificing. It is wise, understanding, and perceptive of God’s will. It is about pleasure and order, and out of our desire to please our Redeemer.
D. We must be committed to the mission of God even when we doubt our husband’s devotion to the call of God. (1 Pet 3:1) Even if your husbands are not Christians or are not obedient to Christ, you must be submissive to them, as if they were, so that your obedience to Christ will cause them to turn or return to the Lord.
Doctrine statement concerning submission
Submission is an act of admitting the authority of God over me in every area of my life, ceding to the order God has ordained, and resisting my human desires to deny the leadership and protection God has provided in this carnal world.
I. Submission – Literally – Under (sub) – Cause or Purpose (mission)
mis·sion - noun
1. a sending out or being sent out with authority to perform a special service;
2. a group of persons sent to a foreign government to conduct negotiations; diplomatic delegation; embassy
3. the special task or purpose for which a person is apparently destined in life; calling
4. any charitable, educational, or religious organization for helping persons in need
5. a series of special religious services designed to increase faith or bring about conversion
6. * Mil. a specific combat operation assigned to an individual or unit;
II. Submission to God
A. Our cause is the law of God which brings life and peace. (Rom 8:6-7)
B. Ultimately, all will submit to God’s authority. (1 Cor 15:26 – 28) - The order of this world is hazy. But eventually God will make it all right. Every creation will be subject to Him, cede to Him now and enjoy the blessings of God’s order before the appointed time.
C. Submission is a hierarchy from God. ( Eph 5:17 – 24 ) God to Christ, to man, to woman, to child as the sequence. However, the tone of this hierarchy was not military, but voluntary and self-sacrificing. It is wise, understanding, and perceptive of God’s will. It is about pleasure and order, and out of our desire to please our Redeemer.
III. Submission to others
A. Our submission to man’s ordinances will silence fools and glorify God and give us liberty. (1 Pet 2:13 – 20) (Rom 13:1 – 7) Anyone God has put in authority over you is so that you will have someone to minister to you. Do you believe you are not in need of someone to serve and protect you? Give over that area of your life and allow God to lead as well as shelter you from this dangerous world.
B. Be humble towards all and ready to learn from anyone God chooses to use. (1 Pet 5:5 – 8) Yes, usually it is the younger who offer submission to the older, however, it is not always the case. Grace and humility go hand in hand. This will keep you from the wiles of The adversary.
C. Submission is a hierarchy from God. (Eph 5:17 – 24) God to Christ, to man, to woman, to child as the sequence. However, the tone of this hierarchy was not military, but voluntary and self-sacrificing. It is wise, understanding, and perceptive of God’s will. It is about pleasure and order, and out of our desire to please our Redeemer.
D. We must be committed to the mission of God even when we doubt our husband’s devotion to the call of God. (1 Pet 3:1) Even if your husbands are not Christians or are not obedient to Christ, you must be submissive to them, as if they were, so that your obedience to Christ will cause them to turn or return to the Lord.
Doctrine statement concerning submission
Submission is an act of admitting the authority of God over me in every area of my life, ceding to the order God has ordained, and resisting my human desires to deny the leadership and protection God has provided in this carnal world.
Wednesday, October 03, 2007
Tulle, tulle, & more tulle
tulle - noun- a thin, fine netting of silk, rayon, nylon, etc., used as for veils and scarves.
To me, tulle equals wedding. It's that lovely, wispy, netting that blows gently in the wind and drapes everything in romance. There was an irresistable aura of love in New Waverly, Texas this past weekend. Neice 21, married her beau on Saturday in an outdoor wedding, in the country, among 100 friends and family. The gazebo was beautifully draped in tulle and lit with lights amid grapevine pulled from the trees on the land behind the house.
I had the fabulous honor of helping sister in law decorate the acres where the wedding and reception would be held. We had great fun from Thursday til right up to the minute of the wedding planning where the tulle and lights would be hung, calculating how to best host 100 people, and simply playing in the tulle.
It was hot, difficult work at times, but I wouldn't trade one minute of the experience of observing Neice 21 and her mother prepare for her new life on those few days. Even more endearing was watching my brother organize himself, not only to give her away to her groom, but to perform the wedding ceremony. He has been her pastor for 19 of her 21 years. It was only proper. His words will forever be embedded in my heart. My brother said:
"I have many memories of 21 when she was young, but, the two I want to share with you are these two things. When 21 was small and had a bad day and was really upset, I would simply hold her until she would calm down and quit crying or go to sleep. And one day when she was only 2 yrs old she put the car in reverse while I was raising the garage door and the car went racing across the street, all I could do was run to rescue her from the danger that I could see was imminent. I was ready to do whatever it took to bring her to safety. "
"Groom, that is your charge, if 21 is having a bad day or a rough time, hold her and let her know that everthing will be ok. If something is dragging her away, Go get her and bring her back! Her mother and I give her away, to you, and now that is your responsibility, her security and her safety."
Now they are cruising the Caribbean. What a glorious beginning of what will be a lifetime of memories.
To me, tulle equals wedding. It's that lovely, wispy, netting that blows gently in the wind and drapes everything in romance. There was an irresistable aura of love in New Waverly, Texas this past weekend. Neice 21, married her beau on Saturday in an outdoor wedding, in the country, among 100 friends and family. The gazebo was beautifully draped in tulle and lit with lights amid grapevine pulled from the trees on the land behind the house.
I had the fabulous honor of helping sister in law decorate the acres where the wedding and reception would be held. We had great fun from Thursday til right up to the minute of the wedding planning where the tulle and lights would be hung, calculating how to best host 100 people, and simply playing in the tulle.
It was hot, difficult work at times, but I wouldn't trade one minute of the experience of observing Neice 21 and her mother prepare for her new life on those few days. Even more endearing was watching my brother organize himself, not only to give her away to her groom, but to perform the wedding ceremony. He has been her pastor for 19 of her 21 years. It was only proper. His words will forever be embedded in my heart. My brother said:
"I have many memories of 21 when she was young, but, the two I want to share with you are these two things. When 21 was small and had a bad day and was really upset, I would simply hold her until she would calm down and quit crying or go to sleep. And one day when she was only 2 yrs old she put the car in reverse while I was raising the garage door and the car went racing across the street, all I could do was run to rescue her from the danger that I could see was imminent. I was ready to do whatever it took to bring her to safety. "
"Groom, that is your charge, if 21 is having a bad day or a rough time, hold her and let her know that everthing will be ok. If something is dragging her away, Go get her and bring her back! Her mother and I give her away, to you, and now that is your responsibility, her security and her safety."
Now they are cruising the Caribbean. What a glorious beginning of what will be a lifetime of memories.
Ecclesiastes – Week 4
Closing Comments
I. When is it time to forgive?
a. After every offense (Luke 23: 34)
b. Before asked (Ps 86:5)
II. How do I forgive?
a. Just like God forgives me, completely. (Jer 31:34b)
b. With the compassion of God because we are called to hold a different standard in our relationships. (I Kings 8:50-53a)
III. What does complete forgiveness look like?
a. It looks like pure love. I must remember that I am here to allow the people around me to experience a shadow of their relationship with Christ. Rejoicing in good decisions, facing and dealing with poor decisions.
b. Forgiveness doesn’t mean an absence of consequences. Natural consequences are godly consequences.
I. When is it time to forgive?
a. After every offense (Luke 23: 34)
b. Before asked (Ps 86:5)
II. How do I forgive?
a. Just like God forgives me, completely. (Jer 31:34b)
b. With the compassion of God because we are called to hold a different standard in our relationships. (I Kings 8:50-53a)
III. What does complete forgiveness look like?
a. It looks like pure love. I must remember that I am here to allow the people around me to experience a shadow of their relationship with Christ. Rejoicing in good decisions, facing and dealing with poor decisions.
b. Forgiveness doesn’t mean an absence of consequences. Natural consequences are godly consequences.
Wednesday, September 26, 2007
Riches of God
Closing Comments
Ecclesiastes – Week 3
I. Riches of God all benefit me.
a. Goodness, forebearance, longsuffering. (Rom 2:4)
b. Patience and mercy. (Rom 9:22 -23)
c. Redemption, forgiveness, makes known His will for our lives. (Eph 1:7)
d. Christ in you. (Col 1:27)
1. Preserving God's Word (Jn 14:26)
2. Testifies of Jesus (Jn 15:26)
3. Conviction (Jn16:8)
4. Illumination (Jn 16:12)
5. Glorifying Jesus (Jn 16:14)
6. Regeneration (Titus 3:5)
7. Prayer (Rom 8:26)
8. Comfort (Acts 9:31; 2Cor 1:4)
9. Cleansing, Sanctification, Justification (1Cor 6:11)
II. My Investment in God’s Riches is doing today what I was called to do today. (Rom 11: 34-12:1)
a. Mercies of God – I can only consider becoming “rich in God” because God has withheld reasonable judgment from me.
b. Body as a Living sacrifice
1. Body – that which I have control over
2. Living Sacrifice – lively, moving, and quickened. Not idle.
c. Holy, acceptable unto God
1. Pure and morally blameless
2. Well pleasing
d. Reasonable service
1. Reasonable - Rational, (root word logos), of the word
2. Service – worship
III. My Investment in Others is the same as my investment in God’s Riches.
Be faithful to have an intimate relationship with the Lord, let Him work through me, so that the rest of the world will know that He is the Lord God and there is no other, which will be evidence of an undivided heart (a heart at peace with God). – 1 Kings 8:59-61
Ecclesiastes – Week 3
I. Riches of God all benefit me.
a. Goodness, forebearance, longsuffering. (Rom 2:4)
b. Patience and mercy. (Rom 9:22 -23)
c. Redemption, forgiveness, makes known His will for our lives. (Eph 1:7)
d. Christ in you. (Col 1:27)
1. Preserving God's Word (Jn 14:26)
2. Testifies of Jesus (Jn 15:26)
3. Conviction (Jn16:8)
4. Illumination (Jn 16:12)
5. Glorifying Jesus (Jn 16:14)
6. Regeneration (Titus 3:5)
7. Prayer (Rom 8:26)
8. Comfort (Acts 9:31; 2Cor 1:4)
9. Cleansing, Sanctification, Justification (1Cor 6:11)
II. My Investment in God’s Riches is doing today what I was called to do today. (Rom 11: 34-12:1)
a. Mercies of God – I can only consider becoming “rich in God” because God has withheld reasonable judgment from me.
b. Body as a Living sacrifice
1. Body – that which I have control over
2. Living Sacrifice – lively, moving, and quickened. Not idle.
c. Holy, acceptable unto God
1. Pure and morally blameless
2. Well pleasing
d. Reasonable service
1. Reasonable - Rational, (root word logos), of the word
2. Service – worship
III. My Investment in Others is the same as my investment in God’s Riches.
Be faithful to have an intimate relationship with the Lord, let Him work through me, so that the rest of the world will know that He is the Lord God and there is no other, which will be evidence of an undivided heart (a heart at peace with God). – 1 Kings 8:59-61
Tuesday, September 25, 2007
"Practice Hospitality"
OK, OK I admit it, in the chaos of raising a family, trying to make a living, making every attempt to diet and exercise (or maybe I should just say "making" an attempt), and endeavoring to keep my home in order, that little command I read in Romans 12:13 goes straight to the bottom of my list of to-do's. Especially as the holiday season approaches, and my list grows each day, can I really be expected to "practice hospitality"? It is just two little words, perhaps I can just gloss over them and look more closely at them next year when my life will be a little less hectic (ha,ha).
I decided I should do a little research and discover what I could about that small phrase and how it should impact my schedule. After all, if it is in Scripture, I really must heed that advice, and I do believe the Bible is for my good.
Several questions come to mind:
1. What is hospitality? Hospitality is generously receiving guests in my home and having a welcoming attitude toward them.
2. How can I practice hospitality? To practice means to perform habitually or regularly. So to practice hospitality I must make a habit of welcoming guests into my home.
3. What good can it be for me and others? Simply put, Christian fruit is in Christian relationships (Rom 1:13). We meet one another's needs in developing friendships and relationships. I need others and the encouragement they offer and they need me.
4. How can I "practice hospitality" in my home? This is too hard for me! My greatest excuses are that my home is not nice enough or clean enough. Honestly, when I consider the times I have been invited to someone else's home, I never judged their possessions or how neat or clean it was. I was genuinely grateful for the invitation and the friendship that was offered.
I decided I should do a little research and discover what I could about that small phrase and how it should impact my schedule. After all, if it is in Scripture, I really must heed that advice, and I do believe the Bible is for my good.
Several questions come to mind:
1. What is hospitality? Hospitality is generously receiving guests in my home and having a welcoming attitude toward them.
2. How can I practice hospitality? To practice means to perform habitually or regularly. So to practice hospitality I must make a habit of welcoming guests into my home.
3. What good can it be for me and others? Simply put, Christian fruit is in Christian relationships (Rom 1:13). We meet one another's needs in developing friendships and relationships. I need others and the encouragement they offer and they need me.
4. How can I "practice hospitality" in my home? This is too hard for me! My greatest excuses are that my home is not nice enough or clean enough. Honestly, when I consider the times I have been invited to someone else's home, I never judged their possessions or how neat or clean it was. I was genuinely grateful for the invitation and the friendship that was offered.
So, now what? Now that I know I must "practice hospitality" what steps can I take to be faithful to that duty? I think I will start small. I will ask a friend that I already know and a new "someone" from my Lifegroup over for dessert. That should be easy. Then, maybe I'll move up to inviting a couple over for dinner and games. Maybe I'll even have a Christmas party! Being obedient to the Word could have lasting blessings through the friendships that will be developed by "practicing hospitality"!
The more I "practice hospitality", the more fun it will be. The more relationships I have the more support and encouragement I will receive at exactly the right time. I knew God's Word was good for me!! Thank you, LORD, for those two little words, "Practice Hospitality".
Wednesday, September 19, 2007
Seeking God - Ecclesiastes - Week 3
“Simply be faithful and find pleasure in doing what you are called to do!”
I. Determine what I am called to do.
A. Circumstances which prohibit me from seeking God.
1. Is the LORD God my God? (Lev 20:6-8)
2. Do I believe that God is sovereign? (1 Sam 23:14)
3. Pride (Ps 10:4;2 Chr 7:14;Jer 29:13)
B. How to seek God’s will for today.
1. Prepare my heart. (Ezra 7:10; 2 Chr 12:14)
2. Have a willing mind. (1 Chr 28:8 -9;)
3. Abide with Christ. (John 1:38 -39)
II. Finding pleasure in seeking God and doing what I am called to do.
A. Having a prepared heart and a willing mind and abide with Him continually. (1 Chr 16:10 -11)
B. If we seek Him we will lack no good thing. (Ps 34:10)
C. Freedom comes in the discovering and following God’s principles. (Psalm 119:45)
III. Be faithful to my calling.
A. Is 58:11-14
B. Heb 10:38-39
Doctrine statement concerning seeking God:
“The fundamental reason I cannot hear from God is because I have not sought Him in humility. Humility leads me to thirst for Him, seek forgiveness, realize my infirmities, ask continuously, and follow when I hear His answer.”
I. Determine what I am called to do.
A. Circumstances which prohibit me from seeking God.
1. Is the LORD God my God? (Lev 20:6-8)
2. Do I believe that God is sovereign? (1 Sam 23:14)
3. Pride (Ps 10:4;2 Chr 7:14;Jer 29:13)
B. How to seek God’s will for today.
1. Prepare my heart. (Ezra 7:10; 2 Chr 12:14)
2. Have a willing mind. (1 Chr 28:8 -9;)
3. Abide with Christ. (John 1:38 -39)
II. Finding pleasure in seeking God and doing what I am called to do.
A. Having a prepared heart and a willing mind and abide with Him continually. (1 Chr 16:10 -11)
B. If we seek Him we will lack no good thing. (Ps 34:10)
C. Freedom comes in the discovering and following God’s principles. (Psalm 119:45)
III. Be faithful to my calling.
A. Is 58:11-14
B. Heb 10:38-39
Doctrine statement concerning seeking God:
“The fundamental reason I cannot hear from God is because I have not sought Him in humility. Humility leads me to thirst for Him, seek forgiveness, realize my infirmities, ask continuously, and follow when I hear His answer.”
Wednesday, September 12, 2007
The Heritage: Ecclesiastes - Week 2
Heritage (Webster's Definition)
1 : property that descends to an heir
2 a : something transmitted by or acquired from a predecessor
3 : something possessed as a result of one's natural situation or birth
Synonyms: LEGACY, INHERITANCE b : TRADITION, BIRTHRIGHT
I. God’s inheritance for me is …
a. Eternal (Ps 37:18)
b. Steadfast (Ps 94:14)
c. Vindication and Righteousness (Is 54:17)
d. Forgiving, Merciful, and Compassionate (Micah 7:18-19)
e. God Himself (Ezekiel 44:28)
II. Is the heritage I am leaving…
a. Eternal?
b. Steadfast?
c. Dependent on God for vindication and righteousness?
d. Forgiving, merciful, and compassionate?
e. God Himself?
III. No regrets
a. Have I been faithful with what God has given me? (Jer 2:7)
b. Have I considered my children a heritage of the Lord? (Ps 127:3)
c. Walk wisely, redeeming the time. (Eph 5:15-16)
1 : property that descends to an heir
2 a : something transmitted by or acquired from a predecessor
3 : something possessed as a result of one's natural situation or birth
Synonyms: LEGACY, INHERITANCE b : TRADITION, BIRTHRIGHT
I. God’s inheritance for me is …
a. Eternal (Ps 37:18)
b. Steadfast (Ps 94:14)
c. Vindication and Righteousness (Is 54:17)
d. Forgiving, Merciful, and Compassionate (Micah 7:18-19)
e. God Himself (Ezekiel 44:28)
II. Is the heritage I am leaving…
a. Eternal?
b. Steadfast?
c. Dependent on God for vindication and righteousness?
d. Forgiving, merciful, and compassionate?
e. God Himself?
III. No regrets
a. Have I been faithful with what God has given me? (Jer 2:7)
b. Have I considered my children a heritage of the Lord? (Ps 127:3)
c. Walk wisely, redeeming the time. (Eph 5:15-16)
Monday, September 10, 2007
Sex and the Niece
This past weekend I co hosted a lingerie shower for my niece who is engaged to be married at the end of this month. Honestly, I am thrilled for her. I believe she has found the love of her life and her aura of captivation is obvious to all who are fortunate to get a glimpse of her. She is 21 and at her physical prime. Fabulous skin, enviable figure, perfect coif with satiny highlights, and a once in a lifetime wardrobe.
Now, it occurred to me as we were all oohing and aahing over the cutest, skimpiest lingerie we have seen in a while, that we (friends of the MOB(mother of bride)) were having a wonderful time discussing things that for 21 years we have made every effort to hide from her. Don't get me wrong, we were all together appropriate, nothing lewd or lascivious.
I guess, for this niece of 21, she has successfully traversed to this stage of womanhood. This point in time that married women share with one another the true joy of sex in marriage. Frankly, when you share yourself with someone who is committed to you, it is beyond explanation on a blog. Pleasing husband and being pleased by him absolutely solidifies our union.
My prayer for neice 21 is that her marriage will be all she desires and that she will discover that her husband is the man that completes her.
Thank you, Lord, for marriage and all that goes with it!
Now, it occurred to me as we were all oohing and aahing over the cutest, skimpiest lingerie we have seen in a while, that we (friends of the MOB(mother of bride)) were having a wonderful time discussing things that for 21 years we have made every effort to hide from her. Don't get me wrong, we were all together appropriate, nothing lewd or lascivious.
I guess, for this niece of 21, she has successfully traversed to this stage of womanhood. This point in time that married women share with one another the true joy of sex in marriage. Frankly, when you share yourself with someone who is committed to you, it is beyond explanation on a blog. Pleasing husband and being pleased by him absolutely solidifies our union.
My prayer for neice 21 is that her marriage will be all she desires and that she will discover that her husband is the man that completes her.
Thank you, Lord, for marriage and all that goes with it!
Wednesday, September 05, 2007
An Undivided Heart: Intro to Ecclesiastes
I. Maintaining the Cause (I Kings 9:59-60)
A. History of Israel
1. Genesis 12:1-3 – The Abrahamic covenant
2. Exodus 25:8 – Their Deliverance from Egypt
3. Judges 2 – The Judges Rule
B. History of Solomon
1. I Samuel 8 – Israel wants a king
2. I Samuel 16 – David becomes king
3. I Kings 1 – Solomon becomes king
II. An Undivided Heart (I Kings 8:61)
A. Perfect Heart
1. It’s all about peace
2. Strong’s Hebrew Dictionary (H8003) shalem – complete, literally or figuratively. Full, just, made ready, peaceable, perfect(ed), quiet, whole
3. How can we attain peace? (Philippians 3:12-16)
B. Results of a Heart at Peace
1. Unity (1 Chronicles 12:38)
2. The Lord shows Himself strong (2 Chronicles 16:9)
A. History of Israel
1. Genesis 12:1-3 – The Abrahamic covenant
2. Exodus 25:8 – Their Deliverance from Egypt
3. Judges 2 – The Judges Rule
B. History of Solomon
1. I Samuel 8 – Israel wants a king
2. I Samuel 16 – David becomes king
3. I Kings 1 – Solomon becomes king
II. An Undivided Heart (I Kings 8:61)
A. Perfect Heart
1. It’s all about peace
2. Strong’s Hebrew Dictionary (H8003) shalem – complete, literally or figuratively. Full, just, made ready, peaceable, perfect(ed), quiet, whole
3. How can we attain peace? (Philippians 3:12-16)
B. Results of a Heart at Peace
1. Unity (1 Chronicles 12:38)
2. The Lord shows Himself strong (2 Chronicles 16:9)
Tuesday, September 04, 2007
Studying Ecclesiastes
On Wednesdays, for about 7 weeks, a group of women will meet and study the Book of Ecclesiastes. We will discuss some very interesting topics which are addressed in this enigmatic and challenging piece of literature. In fact, I believe it may change the way we perceive life as we now recognize it.
My purpose in sharing this fact with you is this, I will be posting the outline and some closing comments from the class on this site. So, if you miss a class during the semester, you can have a taste of what we discussed. Or, maybe you are the type that needs to fill in all the blanks on your handout and cannot bear to have an empty blank, you can come to this site to soothe your obsessive soul.
I am looking forward to learning the Truth, making new friends, and being encouraged by you.
My purpose in sharing this fact with you is this, I will be posting the outline and some closing comments from the class on this site. So, if you miss a class during the semester, you can have a taste of what we discussed. Or, maybe you are the type that needs to fill in all the blanks on your handout and cannot bear to have an empty blank, you can come to this site to soothe your obsessive soul.
I am looking forward to learning the Truth, making new friends, and being encouraged by you.
Monday, August 27, 2007
Confessions of an Ordinary Woman
Somehow, I find myself again, having committed to a task that is much larger than I. My inadequacy astounds me and I wonder aloud to myself, "How could I possibly think that I have anything to offer a class that seeks to know God's Word, hence, God Himself better?" "Leader? Teacher? Me? Absolutely Not!"
In the past few weeks I have amassed a rather long list of reasons why I should not carry through with this commitment. Each item, in and of itself, is grounds enough to gracefully bow out. The weightiest is that I am just an ordinary woman. Ordinary in the sense that I have no impressive credentials. I am not immune to the difficulties that life throws at us. I must work at my marriage, just like you. My children disappoint me, I struggle with rocky relationships, I have to work like a dog to be a good steward of the things and money God has entrusted to me. I long to trust God, yet desire to be in complete control. Simply put, I fail.
As I record this list of reasons why I should not lead, my heart resounds with the memories of God's Boundless Faithfulness in each of those episodes of my life. He restored passion to my marriage and we have celebrated 26 years together. My children make mistakes (big ones) but their contrite response to God's conviction redeems the time they spent separated from God. In fact, My Merciful Father reminds me that their sin is against Him, not me. God has ministered to me in every, and I mean all, situations. Some were consequences of my own sin, some I have no idea why I needed to experience those tortuous hours.
So, having been reminded once again of God's Unfailing Perfection, I remember why I have made the commitment to lead. I want to give testimony to God. It is not about me. It is about Him.
In the past few weeks I have amassed a rather long list of reasons why I should not carry through with this commitment. Each item, in and of itself, is grounds enough to gracefully bow out. The weightiest is that I am just an ordinary woman. Ordinary in the sense that I have no impressive credentials. I am not immune to the difficulties that life throws at us. I must work at my marriage, just like you. My children disappoint me, I struggle with rocky relationships, I have to work like a dog to be a good steward of the things and money God has entrusted to me. I long to trust God, yet desire to be in complete control. Simply put, I fail.
As I record this list of reasons why I should not lead, my heart resounds with the memories of God's Boundless Faithfulness in each of those episodes of my life. He restored passion to my marriage and we have celebrated 26 years together. My children make mistakes (big ones) but their contrite response to God's conviction redeems the time they spent separated from God. In fact, My Merciful Father reminds me that their sin is against Him, not me. God has ministered to me in every, and I mean all, situations. Some were consequences of my own sin, some I have no idea why I needed to experience those tortuous hours.
So, having been reminded once again of God's Unfailing Perfection, I remember why I have made the commitment to lead. I want to give testimony to God. It is not about me. It is about Him.
Tuesday, August 21, 2007
RGF's
Really Good Friends. I am sincerely awed by my RGF's. Do you have any RGF's? They are the people that know your deepest, darkest, ugliest secrets and still come over, look you in the eye, and convey (with or without words) their love and devotion to you. And I mean godly love and devotion. The kind that encourages you to seek God's answer to your heartbreaking isssue and, in fact, will also search for God's Best for you.
Maybe a better question might be "Are you anybody's RGF?"
It's uncomfortable and a little risky to show up at someone's home when you know they are hurting and you need to be willing to talk, or simply listen, about the rough stuff. But, that is when most of us need an RGF, when we are unable to step outside the confines of our home and seek the comfort and encouragement we need.
You see, when we are hurting our imaginations tend get out of control. We envision what we believe others must think of us. And it usually isn't good. So, be an RGF and take the guessing out of your friend's heart and let them know (without a shadow of a doubt) the depth of your love.
Maybe a better question might be "Are you anybody's RGF?"
It's uncomfortable and a little risky to show up at someone's home when you know they are hurting and you need to be willing to talk, or simply listen, about the rough stuff. But, that is when most of us need an RGF, when we are unable to step outside the confines of our home and seek the comfort and encouragement we need.
You see, when we are hurting our imaginations tend get out of control. We envision what we believe others must think of us. And it usually isn't good. So, be an RGF and take the guessing out of your friend's heart and let them know (without a shadow of a doubt) the depth of your love.
Thursday, August 16, 2007
Why Wait?
That has been my question... Why must I wait for the hard times to be past and for the healing to begin in some relationships that are important. I was reminded today just how faithful the LORD God really is and why He makes us wait.
"And therefore will the LORD wait, that he may be gracious to you, and therefore will he be exalted, that he may have mercy upon you: for the LORD is a God of judgment: blessed are all they that wait for him." Isaiah 30:18
So true. If in my muck I feel like I have done what I can and the circumstances appear to have been changed in my favor, I would think that I had manipulated my own destiny. However, when I am faithful to do the right thing in the midst of the most difficult times and nothing appears to be changing, then I am more likely to realize that it is God who absolutely holds my future. This also tests my character. Am I doing the right thing because it is right or because I want good things to come to me?
Let me say, loud and clear, that our God Is Gracious. We have experienced the beginning stages of healing in our home. We are thankful for a Righteous God, Our Shield, Our Defender, a God of Mercy and Grace.
"And therefore will the LORD wait, that he may be gracious to you, and therefore will he be exalted, that he may have mercy upon you: for the LORD is a God of judgment: blessed are all they that wait for him." Isaiah 30:18
So true. If in my muck I feel like I have done what I can and the circumstances appear to have been changed in my favor, I would think that I had manipulated my own destiny. However, when I am faithful to do the right thing in the midst of the most difficult times and nothing appears to be changing, then I am more likely to realize that it is God who absolutely holds my future. This also tests my character. Am I doing the right thing because it is right or because I want good things to come to me?
Let me say, loud and clear, that our God Is Gracious. We have experienced the beginning stages of healing in our home. We are thankful for a Righteous God, Our Shield, Our Defender, a God of Mercy and Grace.
Wednesday, August 08, 2007
Grief
Why must we experience grief?
It seems it must have been long enough.
How can I last much longer?
Could there possibly be more?
How long, Father?
When you trust Me absolutely
with an unwavering faith
then, and only then,
will it be long enough.
It seems it must have been long enough.
How can I last much longer?
Could there possibly be more?
How long, Father?
When you trust Me absolutely
with an unwavering faith
then, and only then,
will it be long enough.
Friday, July 27, 2007
What is in a Name?
I have a theory. See if you agree. I think I have come to the conclusion that the only thing we actually possess is our name. Our reputation. What do you think?
I looked up the definition, and according to Merriam Webster to possess something means
1 a: to have and hold as property : own b: to have as an attribute, knowledge, or skill2 a: to take into one's possession b: 1 b: to enter into and control firmly : dominatec: to bring or cause to fall under the influence.
Most of us believe that we possess our car, house or clothing. When, in fact, we own them. We have the legal right to use them to our liking. However, if we look at the above definition, to possess means to control firmly. I can tell you right now that even though I have the legal right to drive my car, I absolutely do not control everything about it. My auto continues to experience the adverse effects of the weather, bad roads and other people's car doors and bumpers. My home is difficult to maintain. I hold it as property, it is my homestead, no one can take it from me; but, I control nothing about it. It costs a fortune to manage. I cannot, no matter how hard I try, retain it's pristine state as a new home.
Now, that brings me to my name. I have complete control of my reputation. I propose that my reputation is the only thing that I can fully bring under my influence. My character walks boldy before me as I enter into relationships and lingers long after I am gone. My name will remind others I interacted with long ago of my overall qualities whether they are fair and wise or lacking in goodness and kindness. If I have been foolish this attribute will haunt me long after I have learned that lesson. A reputation of deceit and dishonesty stay and stay and stay.
No wonder the wisest man who ever lived said this:
"A good name is better than fine perfume..." Eccl 7:1
Boy, was he right!
I looked up the definition, and according to Merriam Webster to possess something means
1 a: to have and hold as property : own b: to have as an attribute, knowledge, or skill2 a: to take into one's possession b: 1 b: to enter into and control firmly : dominate
Most of us believe that we possess our car, house or clothing. When, in fact, we own them. We have the legal right to use them to our liking. However, if we look at the above definition, to possess means to control firmly. I can tell you right now that even though I have the legal right to drive my car, I absolutely do not control everything about it. My auto continues to experience the adverse effects of the weather, bad roads and other people's car doors and bumpers. My home is difficult to maintain. I hold it as property, it is my homestead, no one can take it from me; but, I control nothing about it. It costs a fortune to manage. I cannot, no matter how hard I try, retain it's pristine state as a new home.
Now, that brings me to my name. I have complete control of my reputation. I propose that my reputation is the only thing that I can fully bring under my influence. My character walks boldy before me as I enter into relationships and lingers long after I am gone. My name will remind others I interacted with long ago of my overall qualities whether they are fair and wise or lacking in goodness and kindness. If I have been foolish this attribute will haunt me long after I have learned that lesson. A reputation of deceit and dishonesty stay and stay and stay.
No wonder the wisest man who ever lived said this:
"A good name is better than fine perfume..." Eccl 7:1
Boy, was he right!
Monday, July 23, 2007
Indescribable
I think most of the time I amble through my life oblivious of God's mercy. As you can tell, if you have read many of my posts, my life (in my opinion) is rather blissful. I know that my circumstances are a direct result of God's lovingkindness, faithfulness, and care for me, my children and extended family and I am genuinely thankful. I am at least grateful for the small part of that truth that I comprehend. Every now and then, fortunately, God chooses to illuminate me by revealing His holy attributes.
Last week was an interminable week. Each day longer than the one before it. Disappointment and grief were found at every turn. God's Word was the only place to find hope. Here is where I spent my days:
Luke 11:5-8 Then he said to them, "Suppose one of you has a friend, and he goes to him at midnight and says, 'Friend, lend me three loaves of bread, because a friend of mine on a journey has come to me, and I have nothing to set before him.' "Then the one inside answers, 'Don't bother me. The door is already locked, and my children are with me in bed. I can't get up and give you anything.' I tell you, though he will not get up and give him the bread because he is his friend, yet because of the man's boldness he will get up and give him as much as he needs.
I literally knocked incessantly at God's door and asked for underserved mercy. The truth of the matter is we deserve judgment and consequences from our Holy God, yet I was emboldened by my LORD to persistently ask for what I felt I needed. Our future is in His hands and I truly came to the point that I would choose to be thankful for whatever future God chose for us, But I relentlessly cried out for underserved mercy, And that is what He gave...mercy.
Our ordeal isn't over, but, God's precepts will carry us through. We will praise His name forever to all the earth, "The Lord is Good and His Mercy endures forever!"
Thank you, Lord, for your Indescribable Mercy!
Psalm 86:12-13 "I will praise thee, O Lord my God, with all my heart: and I will glorify thy name for evermore. For great is thy mercy toward me: and thou hast delivered my soul from the lowest hell."
Last week was an interminable week. Each day longer than the one before it. Disappointment and grief were found at every turn. God's Word was the only place to find hope. Here is where I spent my days:
Luke 11:5-8 Then he said to them, "Suppose one of you has a friend, and he goes to him at midnight and says, 'Friend, lend me three loaves of bread, because a friend of mine on a journey has come to me, and I have nothing to set before him.' "Then the one inside answers, 'Don't bother me. The door is already locked, and my children are with me in bed. I can't get up and give you anything.' I tell you, though he will not get up and give him the bread because he is his friend, yet because of the man's boldness he will get up and give him as much as he needs.
I literally knocked incessantly at God's door and asked for underserved mercy. The truth of the matter is we deserve judgment and consequences from our Holy God, yet I was emboldened by my LORD to persistently ask for what I felt I needed. Our future is in His hands and I truly came to the point that I would choose to be thankful for whatever future God chose for us, But I relentlessly cried out for underserved mercy, And that is what He gave...mercy.
Our ordeal isn't over, but, God's precepts will carry us through. We will praise His name forever to all the earth, "The Lord is Good and His Mercy endures forever!"
Thank you, Lord, for your Indescribable Mercy!
Psalm 86:12-13 "I will praise thee, O Lord my God, with all my heart: and I will glorify thy name for evermore. For great is thy mercy toward me: and thou hast delivered my soul from the lowest hell."
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